I cannot think of a more challenging time than we have faced over the last 18 months. However, seeing how compassionate and committed ‘Team ELHT’ continues to be in spite of this terrible virus and day to day pressure is simply awe inspiring.
The lengths colleagues have gone to and are continuing to go to each and every day in order to put patients first and serve the community is the NHS at its finest.
It is vitally important though that those same people demonstrate self compassion too in these ongoing uncertain and incredibly difficult times. Putting your own oxygen mask on first is key to helping others in difficult times.
It is well documented that health care workers are not very good at acts of self care and demonstrating help seeking behaviours in times of distress. Which is fascinating given the lengths I know colleagues go to when caring for our patients and the advice they give to others about self care!
Whilst I know they are all heroes for how they have tackled the relentless pandemic, heroic leadership in the long term leads to burn out and ill health.
So, it is vitally important we each role model compassionate leadership. Compassionate leaders take a genuine interest in their colleagues, value diversity, take time to listen and be with their team. Compassionate leaders also respond empathetically and are prepared to do something to alleviate distress.
This week I am asking all colleagues as compassionate leaders to ask themselves ‘am I ok?’ and this is something everyone can do. If the answer is no, the next steps is to consider what would you say to a friend in the same circumstances?
I have no doubt you would encourage them to take good care of themselves and take time for the things that bring them rest, recovery and joy.
Please, ask how people are doing and managing and ask again if you're worried they aren't sharing the full picture. Asking again, with interest, can help someone to open up and explore what they're feeling.
There are, of course, times for everyone when our wellbeing is so challenged that self-care is not enough.
If you are finding things difficult, talk to someone you trust. Please, do not suffer in silence. Let’s take care of ourselves and each other.
Take care,
Lee